Let’s face it: There are no perfect marriages. If you think you’re the only one dealing with marriage issues, think again. Even good marriages have issues.

Heroes of the faith recognized it. Ruth Graham was married to evangelist Billy Graham for 63 years. His quote on marriage? “Ruth and I don’t have a perfect marriage, but we have a great one.” Her quote? “A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers.”

Pastors at Southeast Christian Church don’t claim to be perfect. They are, however, committed husbands and dads. Since Southeast Christian Church recently wrapped up its You & Me sermon series, we thought we’d ask some of Southeast’s pastors to share their best piece of marriage advice.

“The challenges you have in marriage are really common, people just don’t talk about them. It’s OK to talk about them and ask for help early and often.” –Senior Pastor Kyle Idleman

“Dig the well. Do the hard work of learning to pray, give, listen, pursue and love as quick as

you can, and you’ll never run dry.”

–Associate Pastor Matt Reagan

“Don’t look to your spouse to give you

what only Christ can give you, which is

ultimate joy and peace.”

–Crestwood Campus Pastor Greg Allen

“Always pursue your spouse. If you aren’t pursuing your spouse, someone or something else is.”

–Bullitt County Campus Pastor Heath Barth

“What if God designed marriage to make us holy more than to make us happy?”

–River Valley Campus Pastor Mark Berggren

“Most problems in marriage are due to our

selfishness.” –SE Beechmont Pastor Tim Coble

“Remember how much you love her on this day (wedding day advice from my mom).”

–Southwest Campus Pastor James Hauser

“Keep dating a priority. We have done this throughout our marriage. It’s an investment that pays off. We read ‘The Five Love Languages’ by Gary Chapman, which has been tremendous for us.”

–Blankenbaker Campus Pastor Neal Gossett

“My mentor and Pastor Tommy Nelson said, ‘Give grace and be patient with your wife—in time she’s going to figure out who she is really married to!'”     –Indiana Campus Eddie Johnson

“Be intentional, not just reactive! Begin your marriage with a clear picture of what kind of lifelong marriage you want. Jill and I chose Ecclesiastes 7:8 as our marriage verse: “The end of the matter is better than the beginning, and patience is better than pride.” So many marriages peak at the wedding/honeymoon and go downhill soon after. Our goal is for our last day of marriage to be the best day of marriage. To accomplish this, it takes planning and intentionality.” –Elizabethtown Campus Pastor Michael Kast

“According to the Bible, the way I love my wife should reflect the standard of how Jesus loves the church. When I invite people into a relationship with Jesus, I have to model that relationship by how I relate to my wife. Measure your life not by what you get from your wife, but by what you give her.”

–SE Multination Pastor Charles Mwungura

“In every decision, seek to be one. Oneness isn’t sameness, and it isn’t dominance. Being one means forgiving, contributing, discussing and seeking the good of the other.” –SE Online Pastor Stephen Puricelli

“Don’t expect your spouse to know what you need without telling them. You need to know and

understand yourself, your desires, your needs and wants and then communicate clearly, without

resentment, to your spouse.” –Shelby County Campus Pastor Max Semenick

“Remember you are on the same team.” –La Grange Campus Pastor Brian Sites

“Take time every day to debrief your day together.” –South Louisville Campus Pastor Justin Weece

“When you come home in the afternoon, embrace one another to reconnect and find out about one another’s day. Simple prayer together in the morning and reconnecting at the end of the day keeps the channels of communication open and helps couples thrive. Work on being a good listener. Strive to make each other a priority by seeking to obey 1 Corinthians 13, the famous ‘love does’ chapter in the Bible.”

–Chapel in the Woods Campus Pastor Murphy Belding