In this season of online school instruction, canceled events and much more time at home, moms are wearing more hats than ever.
Some are trying to teach their kids while working from home; others are trying to keep their families safe while working in hospitals, grocery stores and other essential businesses. Some are just trying to keep their kids from climbing the walls.
In the midst of this uncertain season, Mother’s Day will look different than it has in the past, but moms of all kinds and in all seasons of life deserve to be celebrated.
Southeast Christian Church’s Women’s Ministry wants moms to know that they are immensely loved and valued, and that they are not alone in their struggles.
“Motherhood is the hardest and often the most unrecognized job,” Blankenbaker Campus Women’s Ministry Leader Christy Weaver said. “There are days when we feel like we’re not doing a good job, but in our weakness, He is strong.”
Quitting the comparison game
Moms have always been under a lot of pressure, and COVID-19 has not made things better.
While many families may be spending more time together and getting creative with how to keep kids engaged, there is always temptation to compare.
“I think women always put too many expectations on themselves, and this season has been no different,” Crestwood Campus Women’s Ministry Leader Susan Wilder said. “I was talking with my daughter the other day, and she said, ‘I’ve even had to let go of my idea of what this was going to look like.’”
Wilder said that each day should be led with grace—for ourselves and for others—that comes from God.
“If what you’re doing is rooted in glorifying God and loving others, then what’s happening in your home is good, and what you’re doing is enough,” Wilder said. “God doesn’t compare us to each other, so why should we?”
Wilder points to Psalm 130:3-4, which says, “If you, Lord, kept a record of sins, Lord, who could stand? But with you there is forgiveness, so that we can, with reverence, serve you.”
Jennifer Choate, Southwest Campus Women’s Ministry leader, said that while many moms feel like every day is a fight just to keep their heads above water, God is willing and able to meet them where they are.
“So often, we spend our time clinging to that one thing that went wrong, rather than clinging to God and what He’s doing,” Choate said. “God placed you in your family for a reason. You are the mom for that strong-willed child, that estranged family member, that child who’s sick or hurting, or who doesn’t have a father in his or her life. Trust that that is enough, and let the Holy Spirit do the rest.”
A time to invest
Indiana Campus Women’s Ministry Leader Jodi Seevers has added homeschool teacher to her already-overflowing list of roles. But Seevers has seen the added responsibility as an opportunity to slow down and invest in her kids and others.
“God has really used this time to show me that I have so many opportunities to share my faith with my kids, and that as a family, we can share our faith with our friends and neighbors,” Seevers said.
“Things are slowing down,” Wilder added. “We’re going from busyness to no schedules at all. Now things that were once, ‘If I only had the time,’ have become almost a mandate: Eating meals together, spending time outside, completing chores. Why not use that time together as an opportunity to live out and speak about your faith with your children?”
Loving from a distance
Many will be unable to be with their loved ones on Mother’s Day. Wilder, Weaver, Choate and Seevers won’t be able to visit their mothers this Sunday, but they’re getting creative with how they celebrate their moms.
“One of the first things I’m going to do once this stay-at-home order is lifted is go hug my mom,” Choate said. “But in this time, I’m so grateful that we serve such a creative God, and that He’s given us so many means of communicating and showing our love.”
When it comes to celebrating moms, words are one of the best ways to convey love and appreciation.
Weaver suggested writing out a thoughtful note expressing the impact your mom, grandmother or mother-figure had on your life. Wilder added that recalling specific memories will show that the little details matter.
Texts, letters, phone calls and video chats all show how much the women in your life mean to you.
Choate said that a person’s voice also carries love and endearment. Leaving a voice message or sending a voice text that shares how much you love someone is something they can keep.
Celebrating all the moms
Mother’s Day can be a difficult holiday for those who grew up without a mom and those whose mothers have died. It’s also difficult for those who struggle with infertility.
Seevers said that Mother’s Day is about so much more than cards, flowers and breakfast in bed. It’s about making all the impactful women in our lives feel loved and appreciated.
“I love my mom. She modeled what it means to be an intentional Christ-follower, wife, mother, daughter and now grandmother, and I’m grateful that God gave me her, but not everyone has had such a mom,” she said. “But we have all had a mother-figure in our lives, whether that’s a grandparent, a foster parent, an aunt, a teacher, a mentor. This holiday is a great time to reflect on who that person was for you and the impact they had, and be that for someone else. How can you invest in someone who needs a mom? How can you encourage the moms in your life?”
“What an opportunity we have in this season to build each other up in love,” Wilder added.