Company-wide layoffs, corporate downsizing, going out of business—there are so many reasons for losing a job. Employers make efforts to soften the blow, but these efforts are similar to a “Dear John” letter: “It’s not you, it’s me.” “You’re a great person. We’re just moving in a different direction.”

Bottom line, it hurts. And that’s OK.

We encourage folks to experience this grief. Don’t try to butter it up with false joy. It’s your party, cry if you want to. (Some of you will get that!)

But as quickly as possible, you have to move on. Now your full-time job is finding a new job. Modern methods of job searching may be very different than 25 years ago. You have a learning curve you need to overcome. (I would encourage you to connect with one of Southeast’s Career Transition mentors.)

But first, I would encourage you to take an honest inventory of yourself. Second Corinthians 13:5 (ESV) tells us: “Examine yourselves, to see whether you are in the faith. Test yourselves. Or do you not realize this about yourselves, that Jesus Christ is in you?—unless indeed you fail to meet the test!”

This is not easy. You might need to seek honest feedback from others. When you seek that feedback, you need to brace yourself with a determination not to overreact or become defensive. Ask, listen, process, pray, repent.

Ask.

The danger here is asking people who will only say good things. It’s OK to have that too. But you need honest, brutal feedback. “If I am applying for a job and you are hiring, what should I know about me that would keep you from hiring me?”

Listen.

Don’t react. Listen. Take notes. Suppress your pride and be grateful when someone is shooting straight with you.

Process.

Take time to consider what you have heard. Like, a few days.

Pray.

Pray about what you have heard. Seek first His kingdom and His righteousness. Desire to glorify God by allowing this to be a time of improvement.

Repent.

The Greek word is “metanoia.” Change your mind. Allow the input you receive to bring about change in your mind and heart. Desire to glorify God more than desiring to convince the potential employer to hire you.

Join us for our online Encounter Job Loss Support Group on Monday evenings at 7 p.m. on Zoom (https://zoom.us/j/174154667). Call (502) 253-8400 for more info.